Question: In order to preserve my relationships with both, I’ve always stuck by a policy of keeping my personal life (my friendships and romantic involvements) separate from my professional life (my colleagues and supervisor). My friends tell me I’m being old-fashioned, and I have many colleagues who have made friendly overtures toward me, including one who has politely expressed romantic interest. Should I continue to keep my personal life completely separate from my private life, or is it okay to let the lines blur a little?
Answer: Thank you for this question because I think the presupposition is that you choose to be an integrity and thrive both personally and professionally which I completely respect.I think you’re also aware that if things don’t work out romantically… how it could make things uncomfortable for everyone in a work environment.
I encourage you to first ask, what else is possible here that I haven’t considered? How could I have it all, in integrity, for the highest good of all? The quality of our questions create our life, yes?
What if you practice up leveling your transparent communication skills and have a cup of coffee with this woman who has politely expressed romantic interest. What this means is talk to her about your authentic feelings… talk about your concerns… talk about best case scenario and worst case scenario…
Ask how would you handle it if you ended up dating for a while… and things went swimmingly well?
Ask how would you handle it if it didn’t work, you broke up and had to see each other at work?
How could you create a structure for honesty and transparency and integrity and kindness?
How could this be a win win no matter what the outcome?
How could each of you bring your strengths to the situation to create the best possibility?
Ask with brave vulnerable authenticity… what ideal future would you honestly like to create together?
Often we find very like-minded people in work situations networking events workshops related to our passions… So it makes complete sense that you would find someone who truly understands what drives you and ignites your Soul’s purpose in a work environment.
You simply need to have this level of honest communication to set yourself up to win regardless of the outcome. Go for it and let me know how it goes! I love hearing from my community and celebrating their wins, learnings, insights, peak experiences and miracles.
If I can support you and navigating this it would be my pleasure, communication and your level of presents and attention is perhaps your most prized commodity both personally and professionally. You can register for a discounted $97 introductory coaching session with me at www.AllanaPratt.com/connect
And lastly, I really respect that you’re willing for your thoughts and beliefs to evolve as you do.
I am a masterful coach, yet always a humble student and I’m STILL blown away when I discover a subconscious belief that’s wreaking havoc with my heart and life.
You are awesome. Your question is a sign of a wise man who understands where he is a student and where he is the master. You rock 🙂 Great love, Allana xox
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